Comparison to others, particularly with all the social media platforms available, is becoming easier and easier to do. How can you not compare yourself to Miss Perfect whilst sneaking a peek at Facebook on a grey Monday morning in a job that you hate whilst trying to do up the zip on trousers that are too small for you?

It can be hard and it’s a trap most people fall into.

Well I’m here to tell you that:

  1. You are perfectly normal
  2. You can turn the negative comparison bug into a positive with five quick steps below:

The Five Steps

  1. STEP 1: Social Media. Who puts unflattering stuff on social media? I know I don’t. Think about that. When you are reviewing social media posts, view them in the knowledge that what has been posted is probably showing that person in the best light. See social media posts for what they are: at best a reflection of that person’s life at a particular moment which they want to share with good intentions OR at worst, it’s a Boast Party and in which case that says more about their insecurities than yours.
  2. STEP 2: Identify what you are envious of. Sometimes we can’t help feeling envious of someone. This is 100% normal and is the PERFECT situation to help you! Use this as an opportunity to analyse what you are envious of and identify what you can realistically do in your life to get you some of it? Turn a negative into a positive. If you are truly brave, ask that person to help you, without sounding creepy, say you admire their style, their figure or the way they handle themselves professionally. Can they help you with a makeover? What diet and fitness regime to they follow? Or can they be your Mentor at work? I can assure you most people will be flattered that you’ve asked.
  3. STEP 3: You are unique. There is nobody else like you on the planet and there never will be, therefore trying to compare yourself to somebody else is a pointless exercise. It’s like comparing apples and tomatoes. You can’t because they are different. Your life is full of unique circumstances that happen to you at unique times, so you simply can’t be compared to someone else. Of course there will be similarities, but that’s it, similarities. Take my advice, 100% embrace who you are and what you are because you are special. As per the Step 2, if you are finding yourself envious or jealous a lot, then this is a sign that you need to do work on you. Do you know what specifically you are envious of? What is making you unhappy? What can you do to make it better? Go see a Life Coach, Fitness Trainer, Nutrition Expert, Style Coach or Business Coach. Get some help. If you can’t afford help, then ask your friends for advice.
  4. STEP 4: It’s all a Mirage. If you want to get deep and meaningful and more real with this stuff, then it’s a case of understanding what someone is projecting to the outside world probably isn’t always the reality of what is going on inside. What goes on behind closed doors. Of course we are not wishing someone bad in their private life, of course not, but it’s a case of being slightly more savvy when the comparison monster rears its head. All is not always as is it seems all the time.
  5. STEP 5: Walking away and feeling good test. Ultimately, when you walk away from someone, analyse how that person has made you feel. If when you walk away you generally feel up-lifted and happy then this is a good person to be round. But if when you walk away you generally feel irritated or not happy, it’s a good indication that this is not a person you should be spending your time with. If someone is not making you feel good about yourself, don’t be around them or try not to be around them much.

Gemma

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